the week ends

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“pick the day. enjoy it-to the hilt. the day as is comes. people as they come…the past, i think, has helped me appreciate the present and i don’t want to spoil any of it by fretting about the future.”
–Audrey Hepburn

have a wonderfully appreciated weekend….no matter what your weekend looks like, enjoy it. those of you that work, don’t think, “psh, i wish i could”…find a way. life is a gift…every moment.

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the generation of tomorrow…

i have always had a love/hate relationship with technology. i typically feel like i was born in the wrong year. not completely far off from the early ’80s, but maybe in the ’50s or ’60s would have been smarter. i loved the way true hippies dressed, the suburban neighborhood entertainment, and the way people used to communicate…”the old fashioned way”.

now, i love my cell phone. and i love to text. and i won’t lie that there are some grand conveniences to apps, camera phones, etc. (did i mention i have a love/hate relationship?) but i still feel as though all of these things take away from our privacy, and can pressure us to form bonds with people we might not on a normal day. allow me to explain…

i am 30 years old. i am of the generation that saw the first beeper, the first “car phone”, instant messaging, AOL, myspace, etc. i remember my first AOL account username, and how exciting it was the “chat” on my computer. but i feel like a major disconnect in reality came with the introduction of “Myspace”. yes, it was cool to put your picture up and interact with your friends, but all of a sudden we were thrown into this world where privacy was dashed into the wind….and we WELCOMED it!

i will be very transparent. because of the age i was at when all this began, i feel like i lost my true self for several years, and just recently have begun to find her again. the true me, the one that didn’t try to impress anyone in my home life, the one that was awkward when i was awkward, boring when i was boring, and introverted when i was feeling introverted lost her way in a world of “i went here”, (like anyone should have cared on a day to day basis) “i listen to these bands”, (even if i had only heard 1 song by them) “i think these movies are cool” (even if some of them i haven’t seen), and “i’m friends with this many people”, when in actuality, i had either only met some of them, or knew them through other people. my generation slipped away into a world that did not resemble reality at all. i hate facebook and twitter for those reasons.

last week i spent the WHOLE week cleaning out my facebook account. i got rid of apps that i never use and friends i never talk to. but i felt tons of guilt for it. why? why would i feel guilty ‘unfriend-ing’ someone that i haven’t spoken to in 5 years. see, this is where it is so false. when we were younger, we called to talk to the people we considered ‘friends’. we WANTED to hang out with them and speak to them, have coffee with them, be involved in their everyday decisions and choices, their struggles, their triumphs. but to do that, we invested our time and energy in them, and they trusted us with their personal, intimate details. but these social media tools take away from that effort. now, don’t hear me wrong. i LIKE facebook. my sister posts photos of my niece, and i love being able to keep up with what my friends are doing…but there is no need for me to be keeping up with everyone i ever met. but facebook does not make it easy to unfriend people. it was a challenge. and i don’t consider these people not my “friends”, but not people i should be sharing every single detail of my personal life with.

…this is a rant, i suppose, but i mean for it to be a revelation.

i am tired of being someone, and doing things, and taking part in activities, so that i can share it with the world of facebook. i feel like i became someone i wasn’t so that i could make people believe that i was “cool” or diverse, or unique. it took away some of my identity. it took away me being me, just for the sake of being me. i share this in hopes that if anyone out there feels like they have forgotten who they truly are, or feel like they are not themselves, perhaps take a moment to evaluate why you do what you do, and who you are doing it for.

i will keep my facebook account, and my blog, and my computer. like i said, it is a love/hate relationship, not a hate only relationship with technology. i think it is great for some reasons, like keeping in touch with my extended family, or a friend that changes their phone number constantly, or people that are hard to get in contact with. and i like sharing on here with you, blogging about the interesting things that the internet, this beast of technology, can teach me. i like that i found this avenue to be myself and people that enjoy who that truly is.

october…

i had a really hard time getting into October this year! how could that be?!? i have been looking forward to it for so long! well, my fried Kate got married the first weekend in the month, so the first week was spent completing preparations for the wedding. my brain was in wedding decor mode, and i couldn’t slip out into oranges and browns. but now! oh now….my home is in full swing. all it took was stopping off on the side of the road to look at mums and pumpkins being sold by a family in a small town near Nashville. as soon as i got those on my porch, game on. i cannot wait to share with you! i even have a small DIY for you. it is very simple. and i will share with you tomorrow!

some other good news is i got a new job! it has kept me very distracted over the last few weeks, but God is very good. His timing is perfect. this is my first 9-5 type job, and i am open to any and all advice and experienced tips you have.

thanks for following my blog. i know i fell off the radar for awhile. life takes control in a non-virtual way and i struggle to keep up on this side of it. however, this week i have a new recipe to share, my DIY halloween crafts, and some beautiful photos to stir your heart.

happy sunday!

splendid vacation…

Ah vacation….having been home for a bit of time, i realize just how important a vacation can be. it is easy to make excuses to not take time off, but it is apart of refreshing and recovery. my family and I went to Hilton Head, SC recently. we enjoyed the beach, the sun, the sleep, the food…mmm…the food, and each other. here are a few photos from the trip…




the walls of one restaurant, Roastfish and Cornbread, were fully painted in this manner
so many beautiful trees!


a goodbye sunrise…

gone fishin’

well….not anymore. ah, friends, i have been such a slacker on my blog lately! adam and i went on vacation for a little over a week with my family to Hilton Head, SC. then i had to take my poor computer in for a tune-up and JUST got it back this afternoon! so happy. it looks like new! now i am relaxing, eating grapefruit, and watching “Flight of the Conchords”. afternoon joy!

tomorrow i will post about our vacation! enjoy your “hump-day”

could i be a culinary genius?

my mother always cooked for my family….every night…no matter how late we got home from swim practice or school events.  my husband and i lead very busy lives with schedules that are constantly changing.  dinner together is not an easy goal for us.  typically what happens is we both get home, get caught up in our own little tasks, then realize we are famished, yet too lazy to think, much less actually move our muscles to cook, so we end up out to eat.  well, this can really be a pinch on the budget and the jeans.  so, i have decided to take up after my mother and cook as many nights a week as possible.  some amazing things are coming out of this endeavor……(pictures to come).

 

Sunday night i made a meal from a cookbook my sister gave me a few years ago (yes, just now using it) called “jamie at home”.  his meals, so far, are proving to be some of my favorite.  I made Roasted White Fish and Leeks.  i used haddock, which i had never had until that night….so good!  this was also my first time to cook leeks and they were the best thing on the plate!

Monday night i cooked a new dish as well, also from his cookbook.  This one was not so simple.  The cooking time was one hour, but the prep time…sheesh….call me inexperienced, but that took much longer than i thought.  i probably prepped for 45 minutes to an hour, but was it worth it!  That meal was Balsamic-baked onions and potatoes with roast pork.  very strong flavors, but am amazingly hearty meal.  apologies to my husband for not eating till almost 9pm that night.

Tuesday i was out of town, so i think my husband took a little trip to August Moon while i ate sweet cici’s with my sister and niece.  everyone deserves a little treat from time to time, right?

Wednesday night i had to work, so i made lunch instead.  let me tell you, having lunch together is such a blessing that i do not want to ever ignore.  most couples work 9-5, and lunch is either rushed or not possible as a joint activity.  i felt like it was summer at home with my family after a morning of being at the pool and an afternoon full of naps, laying in the sun, and reading ahead of me.  because of my feelings of fun and childhood, i decided to do a healthier spin on a simpler lunch.  i made homemade sweet-potato fries with sauteed chicken in mushrooms and onions and steamed broccoli.  (i wouldn’t touch onions OR broccoli when i was a kid, so really it was all about those sweet potato-fries….which i never ate either, but now i love them!)  the chicken meal is something adam cooked for me right after we starting dating.  i loved it so so much that i make it all the time now.  it’s even better topped with some Chevre.

Last night i cooked something from good ‘ol reliably quick Rachel Ray.  (Look and Cook)  my mom and dad got me this cookbook this past christmas and i find it a grand experience.  since i learn visually…or, of course, hands on…this book is perfect.  it shows all her recipes in a sort-of pictorial step-by-step method.  Adam says this one was his favorite.  I cooked Bacon-wrapped halibut (i used Cod) with shredded brussels sprouts.  i love brussels sprouts.  who knew?

tonight will be another new adventure with Rachel Ray, and i will be entertaining friends with this one…Porkchops with balsamic strawberry salad and my own sauteed asparagus (a recipe i learned while staying with friends in Italy)…stay tuned!